Tuesday, 12 July 2011

Team beautiful

I must say that I am indeed appalled at what my eyes have seen and my ears have heard these past few days. Being less busy (thanks to summer hols) has left me in a constant search for what to read, hence I find myself visiting a lot of blogs these days.

Let me start off with this question directed to the ladies! Please can someone explain what's with us? 'cause I've been trying to fathom this for a while but it just eludes me.
It's not enough that we've managed to establish the broad colored and white categories, we had to make it worse with more subdivisions.
Like what is dark-black girl? or light-skinned black girl? And I remember how some of them will quickly want to add, African-American-light-skinned-black girl.
Like why all the fuss, debates and controversy?
Seriously do you notice that boys do not do all that brunette, blonde, red haired thing? But we just strongly believe that it is very important when describing a girl.
That's why their life is a lot easier, boys I mean! Sometimes I envy them a lot. The way they can easily tolerate each others' inadequacies.




I was so dazed when I saw the traces of yet another subdivision everywhere.
So now we've succeeded in adding  'team relaxer', 'team natural' and 'team weaves' to it,  and all these only in the 'african hair' community alone.
Why?! I can completely understand if these sorta descriptions is to specify a certain interest (e.g a specific beauty product applicable to a particular group), that's quite comprehensible; BUT for people that adopted these terms for the purpose of some sort of segregation, I've got only one sentence for you "Come off your high horse and face reality, you're not any better"



Sincerely, I don't know where I'd belong because I find myself in all of those aforementioned groups.
I do almost everything to my hair. I don't like sticking to one look because I consider it very boring. Whatever I think is beautiful, I go for it. I was *natural (no relaxers) for one year, and then I stopped. The hard work and basically the stress was very discouraging. It wasn't even easy esp when I had to run off for an early morning lecture. As if that wasn't enough, winter decided to deal me a hard blow by chopping a lot of it off.
I relaxed my hair, basically that's my easiest summer look. Well cut, highlighted and relaxed and I have my reasons for that. A little relaxer in it is a much easier job for me and that is exclusively my business. That's what technology and embracing life is all about, things can be done differently. Sometimes I think weaves or even braiding them will give me a different look, I explore it. Or even when I try to get them long or with brilliant curls, I choose one of the options I consider the most suitable. There should really be no restrictions regarding this at all. Some people can go through the stress of relaxer and weaves, some people just cannot. And some can go through the stress of managing afro hair, it is just a choice. Like I stated earlier, I have been through all those phases - relaxed, weaves, natural and I can clearly say that each and every one of them comes with it's peculiar hurdles. There's no need trying to be ethnocentric about it. Just choose the one that suits your preferences and take a chill pill.

I'm just imagining how hard it would have been for Obama to win. We already know he had that 'No he's black' or 'yes he's black' going for him. I'm sure if he were to be a girl, we would have heard talks

like, 'no, she's team relaxer' and oh no she's got some weaves on too.

It's ridiculous, sounds very foolish and immature! If I think about this like this as a girl, I can imagine guys reading some of these comments and statements sometimes and just basically STH!

Why can't we just do the team beautiful (keep your description of beautiful to yourself) and forget all these unnecessary wanting to be better? What's it with all the unnecessary distinctions?
Very soon, I tell you team natural will again be divided to afro, curls and locks. Trust me it can only get better. I'll be so embarrassed as a girl to hear about some stupid "hair war".


Please your hair is only a minute part of you, not everything.  'Team afros' please, it doesn't make you more African, and 'team weaves' and 'relaxer', it doesn't make you more westernized either. Please everybody take note!!! To each their own, as long as it makes you comfortable and most importantly, BEAUTIFUL! God forbid that you try to rock something that looks rather disheveled on you than beautiful

If you do not have any idea of this ongoing debate, probably it's even the first time you are going to have to think about this as an issue, then click here to witness an attempt to tackle this menace at blogtalkradio.com

This would never be complete without this song. I am not my hair by India Arie ft Pink
If I know anybody that likes to rock 'natural', it's India Arie. But if she could boldly sing 'I am not my hair' I don't know who else can represent this statement more. And we know Pink likes to change that thing like nobody's got anything on her. Here you have it, EnjoY!




And of course, a few pics of me rocking all your 'teams'
So go ahead, let's see you try to define me now :P







Aint I just beautiful in all of them? :)

P.S Pheww! Sorry for just going on and on. Usually when I rant like this, I don't hit the "publish" tab but mehn, I just had to for this particular topic. I hope the pics and the music made up for the annoying rant? *-*
I'm a joker I know, but I'm pretty sure that's why you love me :)

19 comments:

  1. It's not a rant, jo. U made a lot of sense.

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  2. Lol, I feel you. I carry natural hair but would not advise anyone that isn't ready for the stress to do it.

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  3. Me I'm #teameverything,I know it's kind of tom boyish not to fuss over all that but serzly be moderate.I fuss a lot but I've learnt when to keep quiet.
    yhu are beautiful in any hairdo,very lovely pix dear.

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  4. You look amazing in all the pics, and I totally agree with you on each person should do what works for them.

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  5. i so feel yyou on all of these! i'v got long stubborn hair that gets due in two weeks! tell me how am supposed to manage that being natural? i hated secondary school days, those were tough times, i really cant understand why if i leave my hair without relaxing , it makes me a better more beautiful woman! it is pure nonsense and trust me, this will go with the wind , like most trends do.
    love your photos, you look fab in them xx

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  6. Please you ARE beautiful in all oh! I am totally with this post. What's with this hype about team relaxed and natural. It's not that serious please

    Adiya
    http://museorigins.blogspot.com (formally The Corner Shop)
    http://museorigins.com

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  7. You look beautiful in all the pictures. You are Miss Photogenic.

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  8. PREACH!!! you look so pretty in the pictures :)

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  9. hahaha
    Well said hun!!!!
    well said

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  10. I like that, team BEAUTIFUL...

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  11. Well said
    Women wahala toooooo much
    I really dont know why we always look for the LOWEST DIVISIVE FACTOR when men bond over the LOWEST COMMON FACTOR. *sigh*

    I wonder whether starving people have time to look at skin colour or hairstyles?

    People are looking for the cure for cancer and we are still arguing over 'good hair' and 'bad hair' *mshewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww*

    Abegi, my sistah, you look good bo
    xoxoxox

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  12. I'ld like to believe the major problem is people trying to keep up with the Joneses! Too much MTV and Hollywood movies!

    Im currently in the natural hair zone because I want my hair to recover from the maltreatments from chemicals! Its the second attempt for me, the first was altered by my cousin's wedding, i feel good about it but if tomorrow it becomes a burden, im sure Olive oil relaxer wont be too expensive or scarce!

    Everyone should do what rocks their boatd, that way, i wont have to write another epistle on your blog hahaha

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  13. Aww thanks everyone!
    @P.E.T projects, LOL I hope you never have a reason to, but just know your long epistles are always welcome here :)
    @N.I.L, Abi! There are definitely better things to worry about. This issue beats my imagination to say the least.
    @Ilola, that's just the point. Just do what you want and nobody has to do anything for anybody.
    @Uduak, If you really want to do it, I think you just need to get the right hair products. Some good moisturizers can actually solve your problem. But you have to devote some time to it and it requires a lot of patience but it's very possible to get it soft even without relaxers but hey, if you prefer your relaxers, then stick with that :)

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  14. I'm so happy you talked about this, you really look beautiful in all pictures. I wonder why all these things matter to us girls/women/ladies, we better learn to love ourselves because none of them define us, nice write up nd I never knew India Arie featured Pink, I only listen to the one with Akon but this too is lovely.

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  15. Sorry I'm late...but honestly MsJB you are way too cute!!
    I'm with P.E.T projects on this one... too much T.V!! T.v dictates our beauty standards and we follow like 'zombie'. Today, it's so shocking what we ladies go through to keep within these standards...from 250k hair to bleaching (no offence o). My advice to every one is; DO YOU!!work what you've got and be PROUD of it. We should never be to scared to try out new things too(I'm currently rocking my first fake dreads and loving it:))
    I see sisters complaining about how stubborn natural hair is.Well, thanks to Shea butter and coconut oil which are readily available in Nigeria there are so many ways to work what God gave us.
    Heart your blog MsJB! Peace&♥♥

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  16. Sorry I'm late...but honestly MsJB you are way too cute!!
    I'm with P.E.T projects on this one... too much T.V!! T.v dictates our beauty standards and we follow like 'zombie'. Today, it's so shocking what we ladies go through to keep within these standards...from 250k hair to bleaching (no offence o). My advice to every one is; DO YOU!!work what you've got and be PROUD of it. We should never be to scared to try out new things too(I'm currently rocking my first fake dreads and loving it:))
    I see sisters complaining about how stubborn natural hair is.Well, thanks to Shea butter and coconut oil which are readily available in Nigeria there are so many ways to work what God gave us.
    Heart your blog MsJB! Peace&♥♥

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  17. well said. i really dont get what the teams are about. girls like to be complicated sha!

    good post.

    off to read more

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