Tuesday, 4 March 2014

On Lupita and Dencia

Hey lovelies

I know by now everyone has heard of the heated feud between Lupita and Dencia.
So a few days back Lupita had to give a speech at the essence black women in Hollywood luncheon like everyone else that has won an award in the past had to, but of course without an added spice that she considered really relevant.
And this is an excerpt of her speech
I want to take this opportunity to talk about beauty, black beauty, dark beauty. I received a letter from a girl and I’d like to share just a small part of it with you: "Dear Lupita,” it reads, “I think you’re really lucky to be this Black but yet this successful in Hollywood overnight. I was just about to buy Dencia’s Whitenicious cream to lighten my skin when you appeared on the world map and saved me.
Watch the video instead, if you may

Was all that necessary? 
Ok guys, before you jump into calling me a hater, here is my opinion of Lupita:
She is talented. She is beautiful. 
I was one of the first people to jump on the Lupita love train and I even blogged about it
Read it here

Do you want to know what I thought of that speech? Keep reading!

Lupita is a brand just like Dencia. It doesn't matter whether Lupita is more successful or not, at the end of the day, they both have their hustles to defend.
Who was she trying to impress anyways? For people to tell her she is better or what? For white people to adore her and say she is different or what? I don't get the motive behind that speech and I'll tell you the many reasons why.

1. Dencia stated clearly that her cream is for dark spots and hyper pigmentation, which is very logical that it must possess some sort of a whitening effect to work. I saw a few posted pics of people who confirmed that the product actually helped them with their spots. If you do not have spots, you may never understand. I don't, I've never, so I may never understand. She understands, her clients understand. Thank God for giving her the capacity to help them out. That's her hustle, and her business. 

2. Is Dencia the first person to sell a product that has the potential of whitening someone? 
Why was it so easy for Lupita to drop Dencia's name you might want to ask? I'll tell you! It was easier to drop her name because she is African and she(Lupita) really wouldn't have to worry so much about the consequences, like stepping on the toes of people that could probably sell her right, right? 
When asked, Dencia even mentioned that she had no intentions for people to use her product for bleaching purposes, and she wasn't aware if people were, because that wasn't what it was meant for. You can't really blame her with that one, can you? So if you had to talk about a typical bleaching product, there are so many that she could have called that are produced solely for bleaching purposes. Too daring a path to tread dear Lupita? Because you might end up having to deal with the same people you were trying to impress perhaps? How convenient! 

Whenever you have to pull someone else down to feel better, let's face it, you are insecure. 
So Lupita, next time you find out that you have to work so hard to impress people, remember that you don't have to sacrifice so much of who you truly are to be what you think you want to be. It may not make sense now because the whole fame is more enticing, but seriously, if you have to hurt someone else to feel better, then it's not worth it. Don't get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with success, just make sure you get it the right way. 

And come to think of it, in this era of tweets, emails, and all the techy measures of conveying messages, how possible would it be that her 'mystery girl' chose to "write her a letter" instead? 
That is easier than having to show a tweet with a valid tweet handle or the email, right? Very very convenient! 

My point is, she simply made it up to make her speech sound endearing and catchy, so you and I would be talking about it like I'm doing right now. Well, well done Lupita! 
Was it really necessary? That's my point!

And for those that might say, yea, there goes the *bleachers club* standing up to defend their queen.
Here is a collage with pictures of both, when I was still a baby and now
Compare and contrast.

I think I even got a shade darker as I grew up and I do not care at all. 

Well, if you didn't know what this shows, I'll tell you. This is the best way to check for people who are naturally light skinned and those that had to bleach along the line.
If I were dark skinned, the last thing I would do would be to bleach my skin, because I really do not mind being light or dark skinned. I could care less because it doesn't matter. 

And finally, if you think this is a promotion for Dencia, well, just so you know, I'm not even a fan. 
And best believe she didn't pay me to do this. 
I never even knew her. I only learnt about her through this feud with Lupita and that only is because, I follow Lupita's success story. 

The reason I did this is because one day you might wake up and decide to pull someone down, believing that it'll aid your progress to the top. I am also hoping that when you find yourself in such a position, you will remember this post.

Love always

Twitter: @janylbenyl


  1. personally, I didnt think it was a dig at her. i just think she was reading a letter a fan sent her. BTW you have a nice blog!


  2. I didn't even know who Dencia is. Honestly, I don't think Lupita mean any harm with her statement, or that she was trying to prove any point. She was just relating how she overcame obstacles she encountered because of the colour of her skin. Just my opinion, anyway.

    1. I would like to focus on hoping that you are right, 'cause people shock me with the things they come up with. I'm just tired

  3. Wow, you are so right. First I was so touched by reading Lupita's words... getting angry at the world for beautiful black girls wanting to be white, thats so unnecessary! But after your text I got the point of her catchy words... that's so manipulative! Thank you so much for your sweet comment on my blog and for your follow! I follow you back now! Hope we keep in touch - Maybe you want to join my supersweet rosé fake-fur jacket Giveaway?!♥

  4. I don't think it was a direct attack at Dencia by Lupita but perhaps she ought not to have mentioned Dencia's name. After all, there are so many bleaching creams available. Dencia got some publicity though- Oprah noticed her. Who knows where this will take her if she plays her cards right.

    1. My point exactly. If she didn't want it to seem like an attack on Dencia, she is a creative person, I'm sure we would have found a way to omit Dencia's name. It's not hard to grasp that. Or is it?

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