And I'm sure you have read one of those chauvinistic commandments yourself. Seriously, next time you want to write such, just title it "what I want in a woman or what I want in a man" and put it up like an advert or something. If I see it, trust me I will try to activate my kind heart and whisper a few words of prayer that you find him/her.
My point? It is not a one size fits all at all. If you get lucky, or search well, you will find that one that fits you. Yes, just like you would search for a shoe. If you dig deep, you will find that size, colour, style... just the way it suits your preferences. Sometimes, it pinches a little around the corners, but you are sure you want that more than every other one in the shoe shop. Could that be what every one else wants? Absolutely not!
If you are making music. Concentrate on making music. Nobody asked you what you think everyone should or not do in their relationships. You are not an authority on that. I have seen celebrities do this all the time. Anyone remember when Stella Damasus implied you should pretty much be done with cooking and make the house smell like you did not cook before your man returns and never fall short of this even though you were sick? I have read things in this my life. Ok peeps, do you know that people are getting trained to be relationship experts? The reason is because building the experience from just what you are exposed to isn't enough. There are different people out there with different personalities, professions, backgrounds, cultures, etc and you trying to basically transfer your experience to their peculiar circumstances will not work.
When you find someone that appreciates you and makes sacrifices to accommodate all your excesses, please, appreciate them and don't try to make it a rule of thumb for everyone else that may not be looking for what you are looking for.