Monday, 24 November 2014

Inspiring you! Persevere, it takes courage to stay strong


Hey Lovelies
You see when someone raided my house on the 25th of November, 2012, I knew it was someone that knew me very well and for some reasons wanted to mess me up. (Side note: Learn from my experience, be careful who you allow to come close). Tomorrow will mark the anniversary of that life changing experience. 







(Long post alert! But trust me, it's worth the time)

It wasn't just an ordinary thief because he didn't just go for monetary items, he also went for documents I worked so hard to gain. For instance, he took all my passports including the old one. Took every form of identification I possibly had. If not for my new residence permit that was due for collection in a week, I would have been so screwed. I wouldn't have even been able to get the police on board to at least document that my passports were stolen and that I was robbed, nor would I have been able to get money from the bank to survive. I knew the person was not going to use my license to practice as a physiotherapist in Hungary, but he took it. It took me 3 extra months after my normal programme to acquire that license. Most of my colleagues finished their study and left, but I kind of projected into the future a bit and decided it was worth it to put in some extra time to get that. It took me some voluntary work experience, extra expenses and a lot of strategizing. I worked so hard for that ish, and the person probably just took it and dumped them in a bin because he'd need my degree as well for it to be valid. 

While searching for my opportunities for the future, I knew it'd be a lot easier if I was recognized as a physiotherapist in the country where I was educated. Now, that requires you joining a licensing body and getting some hands on experience. Ask anyone and they'll tell you how hard that could be in Hungary. First off, those guys do not want to hear anything that slightly indicates an intention of you not getting your certificates to somewhere far away from their job market, plus the big issue of language barrier. It felt like one of my biggest accomplishments when I was able to brave through all of that to actually acquire that license. My parents were sick like crazy at home, Dad then mum, and I needed to just grab it and run ASAP to go see them. 

As soon as I got it, I told my friends. I even testified in church because I was so so happy. I was done and making plans to leave the city and just 3 days after, my house was raided by a thief to the barest minimum (Including my transport back to Nigeria, no kidding! I was down on zero)
If I tried to get a re-issue, it would have taken me another 2 months at least. I tried to retrieve it back via the police, I was hoping it'd be quicker. I thought it'd take just a few days or weeks, but it took me another one month and it wasn't looking like they were making any efforts to help, so I left it to my fate, basically because I could sense it in every part of me that my time in Hungary was up. It was interfering with my other plans. I'd need to renew my house contracts. More expenses, and my savings were already gone. My plan wasn't to even stay that long. I really needed to be back in Nigeria. I wanted to go back just in time to apply for NYSC. I wanted to go back and see my dad that was still sick. I wanted to do a lot of things that I will not bore you with. 
I applied for emergency documents (it was the only way I could get out of Hungary) and  headed back home. And guess what? I didn't come back to meet my dad alive. And I was late for the NYSC application as well. 

The way I planned it, I was supposed to use 1 year to kinda reacquaint myself with my family and Nigeria while getting the NYSC done to maximize my time. I had already applied for a masters programme that was going to be due to begin in exactly one yr, exactly after I would have been able to round up my NYSC. I was now left with choosing a later batch, which would have exceeded the time I estimated to be done with it, and I would have not been able to meet up with starting my masters on time, so I ditched the NYSC. Plus, I was an emotional wreck from all that had happened. At that point, I knew my plans were gradually getting thwarted and I just felt like burying every dream and giving up. 
I chilled in Nigeria for a while. Did every other thing, even the ones I didn't anticipate, including transforming myself into this very strong person I needed to be; after dealing with the process of burying my dad, mourned, recovered, and got my high spirits back. I also started a long process of getting a re-issue for my stolen passport (that one had me speaking and writing all the English I could possibly speak to get it documented properly). Got it just in time to apply for my visa to go back for my masters. No need to say every day of those days turned into the experience of a lifetime. 

Now here is the interesting part, whenever I looked back at that period, I always counted the losses until recently when I looked back and saw that everything I thought I lost were really not needed anymore. 
I mean I know it is always a joy to have your parents live long and see all you've become but it really was not the end of the world. I was lucky, I had a father figure when it mattered the most. 

By the time I started my masters, I also realized that I did not need the license I lost so much. That was the one that used to break my heart too. But I realized it was just enough that I had the documents to show I was registered, whenever the need arose. It was enough to have been registered to become a member and have the license. Obviously, it would have been different if I was living in Hungary and had to practice there. I would have needed to always go around with my license to flash every now and then, to show I was licensed to carry out the activities I did. Now that I did not even leave it at being just a physiotherapist, but a Public Health Specialist, it was almost irrelevant to carry the license from Hungary anymore. 

Oh and about my drivers’ license, I came back home and heard they introduced new ones that were mandatory for everyone anyways. Because I had none, I quickly saw the need to start the process which I otherwise would have thought to wait till when it became really expedient. 

Money, oh my! Did I really cry over that? 

And my jeweleries! To be honest, these days no matter how much of it I think I need, I never see the need to have a lot of dangling ones which is what I used to fill my closet with those days. So yeah, even if they were still here, I would have given most of them out because I love them really simple these days. 

My phones, and laptop? All I can say is life is really in phases and stages. I doubt I wouldn't have wanted to replace them either way by now. 

However, let me mention that I did not know how I would rebuild myself to that place where I could face the challenges ahead squarely, but I persevered. Gradually, things began to look up again. 
It kinda sounds easy now but to tell you the truth, I gave up on the dreams severally and picked myself back up severally. I would like to go into details so you'd understand the series of challenges I faced along the way. It was so hard, but one thing is sure, you can achieve anything when you put your mind to it. Sometimes things don't go according to your plans. Persevere! As long as you do not give up, you will see the relevance of those situations that wanted to break you apart. 

This is me testifying about how sometimes good things come in very unattractive packages. That experience catapulted me to greater heights, you have no idea. First off, I was considering deferring my masters for another year but after the experience, I knew I needed to just go for it and look where we are now. I get gobsmacked just thinking about it sometimes. 

It is not the end, until you say so.

Have a terrific week ahead.

Love Always
JB 

Twitter/Instagram: @janylbenyl








7 comments:

  1. Hmm, so this is what happened. I'm glad it has made you stronger. Everything works together for our good.

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  2. **Deep Sigh.. You see ehn Mama, life through my eyes confuses me. When stuff happens to me atimes ehn, i am like oh Mehn! my life is so over, but GOD always has a way of turning that caterpillar slow and sluggish 9not foprgetting painful) moment into a beautiful butterfly ghen ghen feeling in the future. Ms JB, to say I can relate to this post, is to tell you the sincere truth, but what i am learning in my Young and confused life is that at the end of everything yeah, everything will be alright. So with this mantra stuck on the table of my mind, I have learnt to take and live life one step at a time.

    About your Dad, B.M i dont mean to go mushy mushy on you though, but I am so so so sorry for the loss, but one thing I know is that Death is a journey we all must travel, but I pray daily that before my bus leaves the park of life( as i never enter plane before) enroute eternity, I pray that I first have plenty plenty plenty money, and that i first touch enough lives that when i am gone, there will be a huge void in the hearts of many :)... From what I know and read **Tongue out, your dad did both, and thats fulfillment :). Cheers Bubba. Please do have a ghen ghen time of whats left of the week. xx

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  3. Wow! Well done on persevering! You are certainly one tough cookie! I like your conclusions about death. Putting it simple, there is always light at the end of the tunnel.
    And nice picture ;)
    T.N

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